Wednesday, April 27, 2011

The I stayed at a Holiday Inn Express Syndrome

In the mid-2000s, Holiday Inn Express began producing humorous television commercials featuring "average Joes" performing extraordinary activities that only experts would know. The concept attributes these exaggerated abilities to the fact that they "stayed at a Holiday Inn Express last night". The campaign reflects the brand's slogan "Stay Smart" which is still in use today.

The joke is ordinary people feel they are smart because they stayed at a Holiday Inn Express and it gives them special mental powers and can do complicated things like tinker with a deadly virus, fly a commercial airliner, and be smart about something even though you are really an idiot. All in all inside the US it is a very funny set of ads and has become a part of our culture not unlike the "where's the beef" commercials with the old lady. Well it has taken on overtones that are a little more sinister. Here is a quote from one of the people running  T-Central:

I want to start this off with a disclaimer: I have not begun to transition.  I have never been on hormones.  I rarely crossdress.  I'm transgender.

But I do know a lot of crossdressers and transsexuals and many of those have shared very intimate thoughts with me.
They should have started with;  I stayed at a Holiday Inn Express so I am qualified to write an article on transitioning smart.

Ok, let me get this straight. I do not want any errors here or any misconceptions. 

1. They have not begun transition.

2. They have never been on hormones.

3. They have rarely crossdressed.

4. They are transgendered. Well you might have that part right.

5. I know lots of crossdressers. What does this have to do with transition?

6. I know lots of transsexuals.  Really? SO your version of the Holiday Inn Express experience and JOKE is some of your so called pals on T-Central.

This is the ultimate act of hubris by someone that has not one single inkling about what it means to not only be transsexual but to live it and fight your way to get things correct. You KNOW nothing unless you have lived it. Just another example of a man thinking he can tell those born transsexual what it is all about.

You should ban yourself from T-Central you arrogant fool.

The worst part is you are not even close to the worst of your group.

Monday, April 25, 2011

I am baffled by the TV, CD, and non transitioned crowd

I am amused at the transvestite, cross-dresser, and non-transitioned transgender crowd as they prattle on about "passing privilege" and "gold standard transsexuals" and yada, yada, yada. yada, and more yadas. Like others with fetishes they see themselves as being "part" of the community that is transsexual. Ah, no you are not.

We have late 50's men announcing they are transitioning and of course they know immediately all things womanly and begin to preach to all and humorously accuse those that have walked the entire path "men" when in simple point of fact they are "still" men. That is typical male privilege at its finest. I have a tally-whacker so I know more about being a woman than any woman could possibly know and then of course they throw out the "you are not a woman" claim as they get excited in the wife's panties.

On the other hand they actually may be transsexual but the first rule is you know nothing of this path until you have walked it. Walk it, get your surgery and then live for a while.  Talk about transition if you want "once you start" transition and just remember your transvestite forays into the "real" world do not count. You should be asking question and not answering them or offering opinions on subjects you have no firsthand knowledge of.

There is an "angry cross-dresser" spouting off about "passing privilege" and the "gold standard" transsexual which is akin to a fence post attempting to discuss "special relativity" with Einstein. The ironic part is they actually think they have the right. Simply put, you are playing a game you silly little boy.  Your game is wearing girls clothes and pretending to emulate women.  If things do not work out so well on a foray into life as a girl you can just go back to being the guy you are and always will be. You have a safety net that is not available to those truly born transsexual so STFU.

Simply put passing is important to "most" transsexuals.  Some of us are lucky and some not so lucky. It is the seedy sad side of this tragedy of being born transsexual. FFS can cure some of the issues but not all of them. Transvestites and cross-dressers want to be protected so they can play out their little fetish fantasy on the "real" streets of life just like transsexuals. Again you are playing a game and transsexuals are living a life they have no choice over.

This has just happened actually.  One person "announced" his de-transition and closed his blog down but re-opened it at the suggestion of a friend.  Now, why anyone needs to read about some fool that made a mistake is beyond me but compounding the mistake of growing breasts, hormones are good at that, and getting a female driver's license ( a travesty IMHO) and then deciding to transition back to male and then discuss it all and also give advice to everyone on all subjects related to transsexual issues is to put it mildly weird. Unless he is trying to warn other transvestites not to go down his path he should slink into fairytale land with the rest of the fetish crowd.

I will always be baffled why people who have never walked this path or have not even started it think they have even the remotest idea what is involved. Talk about the blind attempting to lead the way!

I will always be baffled how some late transitioner suddenly decides they are a feminist when if their male life was examined they would probably be classified as assholes to women. Even if they were not they excelled with "male privilege" and know nothing of what we women fought to get against that male privilege.

I will always be baffled why transvestites and cross-dressers think transsexuals have anything in common with them. Well we are all homo sapiens although sometimes i wonder.

I will always be baffled why people talk about transsexual issues like they pertain to transvestites, cross-dressers, and gender variant people. They do not but then nobody can convince a fool of anything. It is why they are fools.

I am baffled how GLAAD gets to decide what words are pejoratives. Transvestite is not a pejorative but then why would a fetish bound fool want to be reminded of it. "Tranny" is a pejorative but just a slight clue.  Tranny is solely for the use of transsexuals and not for the transvestite/trans crowd. Get your own world.

I am baffled why we must use she and her for transvestites and cross-dressers and not doing so is derogatory. Are you not still men? Does playing girl mean you are a girl?  I think not. Doing so insults us women.

I am baffled by the people that seem to need a built in excuse for transitioning. It is like a kid telling the teacher "his dog ate his homework".  Actually the dog excuse has a higher probability of being true than the bee-sting and sudden feminization gang.  I did notice there was another sudden feminizing incident. Is it not odd these incidents all happen with married men with children that need the excuse? Silly me.

I am baffled when i read of the sudden onset of transsexualism.  The DSM made this possible when it catered to the "super transvestite" crowd that needed an excuse late in life to go "all the way". They only need to have felt "gender identity issues for several years.  How convenient that is and how profitable that is for all the shrinks and money men in the business of sex changes. One does not suddenly become transsexual. One is born transsexual .

I am baffled that we have not had someone have a partial liver transplant or a kidney transplant come forward and claim they were from a woman and made them transsexual. It seems like a built in "foolproof" excuse for some.

I am baffled when I read claims of sudden feminization and then see pictures of said "suddenly feminized" man and they are as feminine as a 300 pound defensive lineman in the NFL with a face to match. One must wonder if the little boobies that "might" have grown resulted from some clandestine purchase of hormones considering not one of the cases has been legitimately verified.  One must wonder why those men feminized by working in birth control pill factories didn't en mass run out and get sex changes.  Now that is a little odd isn't it.

I am baffled why everyone is so enthralled by gender bender models. A little clue. It happened in the 60s, 70s, 80s, and will continue to happen. It is what it is and will be that way until the fashionistas decide curves on women actually matter.

I am still baffled why so many transsexuals end up lesbian. Then again if one has been a woman for 40+ years and listened to men talk there may be a reason.  Men are obsessed with girl on girl action. I cannot tell you how many times over the years when girl friends and I hugged that some guy commented "maybe we will get some lesbian action" in many variations.  Men are fascinated and obsessed by it. Maybe it is another transvestite fantasy for a heterosexual transvestite to get "really" into some good lesbian action. by physically being one of the lesbians. Most lesbians are not fond of MTF lesbians.  I wonder why?

I am baffled why I am even baffled by all of this. Jerry Springer has made a fortune out of all of this. Kind of sad but predictable.

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Medical or Mental?

Is this a medical condition or a mental condition? I guess I am one of the people claiming that a lot of the later transitioners and even others have created a dichotomy in whether this is truly medical or mental. I think the issue is not that someone is a late transitioner.  It is the simple fact in this day and age there are too many late transitioners and too many transitioners period that are lesbian.

If one is truly born with a female brain then that problem is there from early on and should be set around puberty until somewhere in the mid to late teens. Many people can fool themselves into doing certain things I will never understand but that does not mean I hate them but I do tend to judge the ones I am forced to deal with individually. The simple truth is you either are born transsexual or you are not.  If you believe this then we have a problem in the transsexual community.

Now I realize people vehemently disagree with this but it is quite simple and undeniable. If our brains are truly female at birth then our sexual preference should mirror that of genetic women. Anyone that says otherwise is denying that this is a medical condition and implying it is mental.

Over 50%, U of Minn study, of transitioners are lesbian in our current time period. That means approx 4 out of every 5 are  either frauds or this is not a medical condition. Whether one wants to admit it or not sexual preference is eventually part of being a woman and being female at birth should set our percentages to mirror genetic women. This is an undeniable fact and even if the percentages change minimally it simply shows a lot of heterosexual men are living a fantasy and becoming women to live a lesbian lifestyle which is fine by me except for the simple fact it denies transsexualism as a medical condition.

Take your choice folks. If all the transitioners that are lesbian are truly transsexual then this is not a medical condition. You cannot have it both ways. There are many that would like to make the claim that sexual partner preference is not associated with being born transsexual and thus would then deny the fact that being a girl has no relationship with sex partner choice.  It does whether you want to believe it or not. It is part of being a girl.

I say we have a medical condition which means I have issues with the many transitioners that are lesbian as in the fact too many transitioners and transsexuals are lesbian. Maybe it is the classic case of the heterosexual transvestite needing to take the sexual buzz to the next level and that means claiming transsexual or maybe it is something else but something is wrong in the world of transsexuals and it is not the transsexuals it is the pretenders.

Saturday, April 16, 2011

Attempted Intimidation by someone at The Tanssexual Menace

 Anne at Ella es asi  received the  comment from our favorite anonymous turd who claims to be part of The Transsexual Menace. I have posted it below and sort of formatted it into paragraphs but I believe all of you need to know everything in the comment is the fantasy of an exceedingly ill person.

The traffic report DOES NOT put a cookie on your computer that I or anyone can obtain information from that would result in anyone being "outed". What is displayed is the ip address of your ISP or internet provider.  Your home Ip address is private and unavailable to anyone. Cookies cannot access your network card and obtain your local ip address and even if they could it would tell them nothing about you because it is private. You are as safe as I am.

This is a clear attempt to intimidate and or bully people into believing the lies of some rather pathetic little worm that claims to be in Stratford NC. If one could break into the ISP it would be possible to locate one of us but they would need to know our private ip address which would require them knowing your full name. It is a federal crime to do any of the above so I cordially invite this little worm to visit me in North Carolina since "it" seems to think it knows where I live. Please come and visit me but just a little "clue".  I do not live in Concord, NC.  My ISP and my DNS server are in Concord or sometimes bumped to Charlotte. Just a little "Fun Fact" for your turd brain.

As for Google map that is interesting because my home is brand spanking new and less than  18 months old and there is no goggle map that shows my house in the town where I live but you be sure to bring your little gender-queer ass and whichever gender appearance mommy will let your appear as once you stop breast-feeding and come on down if you really think you know where I live and who I am.

Some little fruitcake like you talks a big game with a really big mouth so I am saying bring it on you pathetic worthless gender-queer freak. Now take your little gender-queer self and shove it up your butt. I take that back.  That is probably your preferred form of sex.

Hi, it's me again with some "Fun Facts" for all you ladies, and, oh heck, even you too, Liz. First, you should never use 3rd party web traffic widgets like "Feedjit" (like Liz does on her page), because it can work both ways - that is, if you know what your doing. It can leave you open and exposed to a privacy invasion. Every person that has logged onto Liz's page, has all had their IP tracked. Anyone, (myself included) can locate you. 

This leads us to Fun Fact #2 Did you know Concord NC is less than a stones throw from Stratford NC? In fact, if one was so inclined, one could take a trip there and, hey, maybe run into an "old friend". Yes, you just never know whom you might meet there, or on the way, or in between, or even nearby. Lastly. Fun fact#3 Time Warner's Road Runner service is probably one of the most insecure networks there is. This is due in part (actually for the most part) to their clients IP D-Slam modem's MAC address are wide open on RR. With little effort, one could be traced RIGHT TO the client location. Repair techs use this technique all the time to trouble shoot users that have been victim of having their modem's MAC Address cloned by a hacker that obtained an existing clients account info, via unsecured widgets like Liz uses. 

So, “thanks” Liz, for exposing each of your readers to a potential privacy invasion by installing a 3rd party widget at the bottom of your page that actually does more than just track them. It also installs a cookie on their computer and monitors their traffic usage, reporting back to the developers of the widget, each and everyone’s most private information. If someone was savvy, they might intercept that information, and… well, they could be posted publicly for all to see. Imagine how sensitive THIS could be for people in our community. Oh wait, what am I talking about? What community? None of you have anything to hide. You are all REAL women. No one would care if YOUR LIFE was an open book on the internet for eveyone to digest, or maybe even look you up and find you or your relatives. Would you? I’m not trying to scare anyone here. Just consider this a friendly piece of advice. Be careful. Btw have you ever seen your house on a Google map? It truly is amazing what you can find on the internet, and even more amazing what county records are available. I've been having fun with this, looking up an old friend in the south east. Fascinating. Well, ta ta “ladies.

Just a little "Fun Fact" worm boy. You do not know me and never have. Like I said you are welcome to visit if mommy will let you out.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

The Transexual Menace

It looks like the Transsexual Menace has decided to take a stake in T-Central.  Based on comments on Anne's blog I am beginning to think her removal or banning from T-Central was part of a plan by Transgender Menace, a more apt name, to infiltrate the list and impose their ill-advised, ultra liberal and ultra confrontational mindset on T-Central.

I actually remember when Transexual Menace arrived on the scene in the early nineties with Riki Wilchins. Riki was at least initially transsexual and according to Riki post op. Well Riki is now a proponent of the non-binary and gender queer and never says so but must believe they made a mistake getting surgery if in fact they ever did. Riki Wilchins just looks, dresses , and acts like a man. In fact Riki has a one whatever show called the Mangina Monologues and refuses to identify with either the male or female gender in this Innovators interview.

Riki Wilchins made a mistake getting SRS and now s/he wants to make sure everyone who is transsexual pays for it through her/his pain. She believes transsexuals, transvestites, gender-queer etc. are one and the same. S/he also considers herself a feminist although not identifying with the gender binary female role. I disagree with Riki Wilchins on a lot of things but the one thing I will never disagree with he/she is they are a Menace.

Riki Wilchins is what the term professional "tranny" was intended to describe back in my time.  We had them even by the early 70's. In actuality Riki is a professional "gender-queer" and I would have zero problems with that except Riki believes transsexuals should never be stealth and can never pass probably because Riki looks like an effeminate gay man.

Riki wants everyone under the transgender banner included in all legislation which includes the right to display the gender of your choice whenever you feel like it at work. I do agree with Riki that everyone regardless of status should be able to lead their lives safely and be happy but I do believe there are some limits required.

Riki has actually pretended to represent transsexuals for a long time with the express intent of destroying the individuality of transsexuals and the fact we are decidedly different than everyone else under the transgender umbrella whether we are stealth and pass or are out and cannot pass which is her/his problem.

Congratulations are in order for T-Central management and in particular Melissa for bringing these fools into any T-Central debate. If you think Anne or I can be politically incorrect then wait until they take over T-Central.

Riki Wilchins and her ilk are not representative of anything transsexual because s/he never was. Just what transsexuals of any era need is this kind of representation and now it has invaded T-Central. Whether it is Riki or one of hir pathetic underlings no transsexual will utter a word on their watch that contradicts their views.

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

I will never understand.

I will never understand late transitioners. 

I will never understand how someone that is a Type V transsexual or a woman trapped in a man's body can marry and father children if they are a woman?

I will never understand why some late transitioning man can suddenly believe he understands all things female just because he is transitioning.

I will never understand why late transitioners actually believe they are role models and want to be out in front representing transsexuals. In my opinion you are the entire perception problem transsexuals have.  Kim Petras can be a role model. Ashley Prince can be a positive role model. Late transitioners cannot be role models. Nobody believes their reasoning whether it is actually truthful or not.  It is just so odd.

I will never understand why MTF late transsexuals are hurt because the wife takes the kids and walks out. What do you expect them to to do? I guess they should jump for joy that they can now have a perceived lesbian relationship with the man they once loved.

I will never understand why late transitioners have such a high percentage of lesbians. If your mind is truly feminine then the percentages should be reasonably close to the percentage of the cis women that are lesbian.  Why are close to 50% of late transitioners lesbian.  Could it be because they were never transsexual and alwasy were and still are heterosexual men.

I will never understand how some late transitioners wife can stay with him but I think I have their reasoning. If the wife has a career she is probably gone. Maybe some are in abusive relationships and afraid of the new girly husband. A normal relationship involves love and sex plus a healthy friendship and if the sex is long since gone maybe love and friendship cause them to stay.  As long as they have no issues being perceived as a lesbian then I guess it can happen.

I will never understand why someone posts as Anonymous and believes they have credibility but then they are obviously fearful of letting anyone know who they really are.

I will never understand how a parent abandons their children.

I will never understand how any late transitioner can rationalize that transitioning in front of their children is not harmful or painful to a child. They never should have married in the first place.

I am not sure I want to understand much of this either.  I read the reasons and the rationale for doing what they do and I am sure for many it is the only way to survive being transsexual. I read it in their painful posts and comments. The ones that irritate me are the ones that are upset the wife is hurt or the children react hurtfully.

Banned in Boston and elsewhere!

This is one of those times I wished I still lived in Massachusetts. I could make the silly claim I was  Banned in Boston. From Wikipedia:

"Banned in Boston" was a phrase employed from the late 19th century through the mid-20th century to describe a literary work, motion picture, or play prohibited from distribution or exhibition in Boston, Massachusetts. During this period, Boston officials had wide authority to ban works featuring "objectionable" content, and often banned works with sexual or foul language.

Well I actually never lived in Boston but quite close during my childhood. This blog is certainly not a literary work, motion picture or play but it must have been objectionable to them based on sexual content or my occasional foul language. Sometimes the only way a woman can get something across in the male dominated worlds I worked in  was to tell them to fuck off. Not much different at time on T-central.

They have every right to remove my link since they started the listing. In case you do not know who they are let me tell you who the moderators are.

Ariel - Started her transition at 53. I was born transsexual. It took a while, but I finally dealt with it. Successfully. :) This is from her blog. Married and still living with the wife.

Renee - Hasn't blogged in a long time. Nothing about who or what Renee is. May be post op.

Karen - Perth, Scotland. This is what his blog says. The assorted ramblings and confused writings of a man who thinks he should be a woman but wants to remain a husband and dad. Confused? Not compared to me you're not.... Early Forties transgendered person who 'came out' at home after really struggling with an explosion of gender dysphoria in 2008/9. Still fighting the inner confusion the condition brings and trying my best to remain a husband and dad to the best 2 kids and best wife in the world whilst seeking treatment for the condition. I find the honesty refreshing.

Halle - Just a nom de plume for this Lady and Gentleman, both and neither - an evolving person. J'écris, donc j'existe! Married with at least one child.

Calie - I'm trans, non-transitioning, MtF, currently living in California, although I have lived many other places. I'm happily married. I love people, and enjoy meeting folks from around the world. I gather Callie is the head honcho based on comments in an email from Ariel which never did explain why I was banned.

I am back under attack by one courageous Anonymous poster, sarcasm intended, with many of the same accusations I received from a combination of Aria Blue, ATG, and others. None of it true but that rarely matters but it is good for a laugh.

I am not going anywhere so let the men in dresses bring it on. Funny isn't it that the moderators from T-Central are all married with children, not sure about Renee, and the only post one started transition at 53. Transgender Central would be a better name.

Am I banned on T-Central?

Anne is banned from what I have read.

Friday, April 8, 2011

Someone is mad at me by the name of Chloe.

My post, "Comments, a few rants, observations, and pet peeves", has resulted in few comments but lots of emails. Most emails are from those unwilling to yell at me in a comment which is fine. I wrote most of that post quite a while ago and not much has changed in regards to my opinions or positions. I just find the lengths people will go to push guilt aside knows little bounds in the trans community.  Few are willing to admit they screwed the wife over and that goes for more than a few.

I have actually received three emails from Chloe Prince which was surprising.  I asked if she wanted to respond to my post and I would gladly print what she said but she claimed it was a "woman to woman" email and did not want public what she wrote in her email. I found the first two interesting and informative but nothing that would change my mind or my general opinion of her bee-sting credibility although she divulged some new "facts".

I was surprised or should I say stunned to see Prince post a new blog item with every single thing she said was "woman to woman" and not for public consumption on her own blog Pink Thoughts today. I guess it wasn't woman to woman after all which is fine.

I received an email at 8:44 PM this evening from Chloe and in it she was wondering why I had not changed my post or written a lengthy response to her email.  Actually she really wanted me to delete my comments about her and refrain from ever commenting about her again. She did write eloquent emails and I rarely respond to unsolicited emails in detail  and I probably should have to her. Before I had a chance she posted everything she wrote to me on her blog.

She felt I should have responded to her and accept her explanations for what happened as the gospel. The problem is bullshit is bullshit whether it remains the same or is changed. Apparently Chloe told her wife she was a cross-dresser before they were married and she was okay with it. I have no reason to not believe her. The problem is Chloe claims she was always a girl and transsexual and a woman in a man's body. Chloe seems to believe that alleviates the fact she still lied to her wife about being transsexual although there is some serious doubt she was transsexual when she got married.

She claimed comments like mine could harm her family and children and I was going to change the post and edit Mr to Ms which is how I probably should have posted it but I saw her post and went to her blog. Her claims that I could harm her children pale in comparison to what she has posted on her own blog. If you doubt me just read it.

Chloe was offended I called her a transvestite but here are her own words from a blog post where she discusses how she had erections and masturbated in girl's cloths and while shopping for girls clothes got sexually aroused. Last time I checked that qualifies as a fetishistic transvestite but maybe that is the norm for some new transsexuals. Maybe Chloe Prince should worry more about what she has posted about herself than what I or others have posted about her. Her own words are far more damaging to her children than anything I or others could possibly say.

The other thing I have noticed is the narrative has changed or maybe "evolved" is a better word over time with Chloe. The bee-sting now did not start feminization but her allergic reaction caused her testosterone production to drop which is again not something medically valid without proof of pre bee-sting testosterone levels and current levels and I am sorry but looking at Ted Prince's photo, including one with a mustache and goatee,  I saw a very handsome man but not a feminine man which is normal for a man in his 30's. There was a claim of minimal facial hair which photos disprove but maybe she meant patchy. Chloe is a big woman and although Klinefelter's syndrome patients, including mosaic (46xy/47XXY), have little chance of fathering children without fertility intervention she did. Ted was either the luckiest man alive to have two boys or this is the mildest form of Klinefelter's which means little chance of feminization. One cannot have it both ways.

For an example of how the narrative has changed try the comfort spending fantasy masturbating post in February 2008 where Chloe describes what I mentioned above and then says she did not know what was wrong. She needed to know WHY she felt as she did. Funny, based on the post Whats New, and Some of the Same Old  she makes it sound like she knew from early she was a girl and transsexual. She claimed in the 2008 post she no longer had erections dressing and buying clothes and this was a new feeling. Need to keep the narrative consistent.

Sounds to me like she "grew" into a transsexual which is an interesting concept. Was this before or after the bee sting? She "morphed" into transsexualism. Actually that is something Harry thought could happen to transvestites as the fetish excitement was not as good as before. It is almost like a dope addict upping the heroin fix or moving from heroin to crack cocaine to get a better buzz. Unfortunately there is no bigger buzz after it is gone or maybe there is.

The funny thing is there is almost no use of the word transsexual.  In fact transgender is her word of choice and she now claims "I am not seeking truth, or resolution to a conflict." Whose truth is it? What truth is it?  What conflict I am involved in? She closes with the claim I have a propaganda program against transgenders. I might want to claim that as a badge of honor coming from one of the queens of the transgender world. Pun intended!

Chloe seems to think I have a reason to humiliate her. Chloe humiliates herself.  She chose to do ABC and now claims it was a mistake. Then why have links to it on her blog?? I wonder why? Why does Chloe constantly refer to herself as Ted, husband, father, and other terms that could be just as upsetting to her children? Those two little boys have probably heard enough from every kid in existence based on the fact Ted Prince made a public spectacle of his family on National television.

The sad truth is Chloe is transgender and not transsexual unless it is very marginal Type IV. Unfortunately today money talks and the transsexual sex change industry is all too eager to have its hands out for any willing donation from any fool looking willing to make them richer. They found a willing participant in Prince.

In many ways her last email is kind of threatening with a -remove it. Leave me alone and let it go.  I am not easily threatened and everything I wrote has been said many times. Just Google Chloe Prince if you doubt me. I got 13,100,000 hits just searching on Chloe Prince. Somehow my little comment is the end of time for her kids. Yeah sure.

Clean up your own house Chloe. If you are worried about your family maybe you should clean out your own closet first.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

The Insanity has come Full Circle

I have surmised for a long time the push for gender identity rights in the workplace has nothing to really do with transsexuals. Businesses are accustomed to dealing with transsexuals and most fortune 500 Companies have solid guidelines in place for transsexuals or should and I do not really care how old or young the transsexual is by the way.

I firmly believe the transgender community needs protection from discrimination based on what their lifestyle is at home but there is a new push underway and it has begun with this DiversityGuides   post. The following paragraph says it all.

Many people in the gay and corporate communities don’t know this, but transsexual persons, especially those not in leadership positions, are not always great advocates for cross-dressing persons, and vice versa, despite them huddling together under the Transgender umbrella. But, when a company adds "gender identity" to its non-discrimination policy, it’s promising its cross-dressing employees, as much as its transsexual employees, that it will create for them a work environment in which they feel safe, valued, and included. People often cross-dress because of their fluid gender identity, and are thus covered by the words "gender identity."

They now want the right to dress as they please in a Corporate setting and be able to express their gender variance in accordance and I firmly believe they will test this in the US Courts as soon as possible. Cross-dressers, transvestites, and any gender variant individuals have my sympathies but not to express their "alternate" gender identity in a  place of business.  Clients will simply go elsewhere with their business.

This means that cross-dressing employees, including all those who exhibit any transgender behavior, have not only the right to use the bathroom that matches their gender expression at the time, (seemingly the most pressing issue of the day) but also, and more importantly, to protection from hostile colleagues and clients.
In order for corporate policies to be fully understood, and for behaviors to change, we all would benefit from having more cross-dressing people put a face on the issue for us. Cross-dressing heterosexual men, and cross-dressing homosexual men and women, need to tell us who they are, and specifically what they need in the workplace to feel safe and valued. If they don’t put faces on the issue, their needs will regrettably be unmet.

If corporations were smart they would simply have company guidelines that support transsexuals and define a transsexual as someone under the care of a therapist or post surgical because the thoughts portrayed in this post could potentially destroy any good will built into Corporate America for transsexuals which is tenuous in many areas. This is one of the many reasons ENDA will never pass and SHOULD never pass as currently constituted.

What perfect fodder for the religious right this pronouncement is. The problem is transvestites and cross-dressers do not have a gender identity problem they have a social problem and their gender expression may at times be at odds with their birth gender but they DO NOT have a gender identity problem and for anyone to claim that is pure rubbish. A fetish is not a gender identity problem but then maybe it is no longer appropriate or politically correct to say what it really is. 

This post is incorrect in its assumption that gender identity includes cross-dressers and transvestites but then that was really always the reason they wanted transsexual under the transgender banner. As the fetish gets more intense the need for a bigger thrill comes front and center and let us be honest here.  The ultimate thrill for Harry being Harriet after a while has to be Harriet being allowed to work as whichever gender Harry/Harriet selects for the current day. Then of course we will all be required to address them as miss, she, her , and any masculine pronouns would result in the employee being taken to task for  infringing on Harry's right to be Harriet on Tuesday and Thursday.

Friday, April 1, 2011

Comments, a few rants, observations, and pet peeves

***** I decided to rename the post which of course failed in blogger and I lost the comments which I have appended to the bottom of this version. ***** 

There was a great song many a moon ago called “Turning Japanese” by a group called the Vapors and alas something else is “turning” these days. Women are turning.  Real honest to god genetic women are turning “lesbian” just so they can continue to love their now transitioned and surgically altered husbands who have transformed themselves into girls. Well, they are either turning lesbian or have become “involuntary” lesbians but that is just semantics. 

There are a lot more lesbians in the world today which is a good thing if you are lesbian but some of these "new" lesbians were sort of hijacked into being lesbians in my humble opinion. To the best of my knowledge, very limited on this subject admittedly, I am sort of unsure how one "turns" lesbian but it is happening left and right, all around you if you look closely. 

This begs the question where can I see this happening? Well, right on T-Central seems to be as good a place as any to look. It seems wives of many older transitioners are deciding to become lesbians to stay with their beloved husbands after the husband has a sex change. This has happened because the hubby has decided to become transsexual. Yes, I said “decided” to be transsexual because in many cases it is simply a fetishistic transvestite taking the ultimate plunge and cutting it off and it is almost exclusively the territory of men in the 50’s who have been quite successful. 

These men are easily observed because they are very public and vocal about their condition and want the world to know they are women and hear them roar. They are married and their 50 something wives have a real dilemma. Leave or stay. This is just another example of women being put into the position of going that extra step for their "man". Bravo girls for staying with your manly lesbian.

It does beg the question was this voluntary, financial, out of convenience, or maybe they were always lesbian and knew hubby was a true woman? It also begs the question.  Who gets to use the strap-on? Any bets on the wife???

How do you turn lesbian? Out of love or fear? Funny I thought you were born homosexual kind of like transsexuals.  Silly me, I must be wrong.

I have been told role models in the transsexual community are of importance. I can see the value of a good role model for the younger transsexuals. Someone like a Lynn Conway has led a good life and was a truly productive member of society so maybe she is possibly a good role model. Kim Petras is a beautiful young girl and a performer in Europe and she is someone that kids can relate to. I do fail to see why any late transitioner needs a role model but that is just me. I am also sure some 57 year old transitioner cannot be a role model for a 15 year old transsexual.

I am often amazed when some "newbie" in their late 50’s that has not even officially started transition proclaims they might be a good role model or advocate for transsexuals. Ah...No way Jose!!!

You are a joke and the sad thing is you don’t get it. You are the butt of every joke seen on television yet you fail to realize it. SNL made fun of you because John Q Public thinks it is absolutely insane when some old man decides to buy a vagina and play the ultimate girly game. It is really what it is in far too many cases and Dr. Sex Change Specialist will gladly sell you a vagina, "prepaid please", a really nice new set of EE boobs, "prepaid please", and a new girly face, "prepaid please", after you have of course gotten your jollies with a year or so of fantasy play dressing as a girl and looking like Burt from Burt and Ernie in a moo-moo.

We are to respect this decision and only use female pronouns and of course all the genetic women accept you since you were always a girl and they immediately recognize you as one of the "girls". Ah...No, no, no, and hell no.

I am astonished at the number of transsexuals that say they always knew they were a girl but somehow their brains went dead when they married a woman and they didn't realize they were in a gender confused condition and should have been honest with the poor woman but of course later in life they just cannot take it any longer and need a sex change or they will commit suicide. Yep, you made it through 50+ years and now suicide is the option. Ah…don’t think so. 

This is called a dichotomy because you cannot always have known you were a girl and conveniently forgot you knew when marrying the wife. Just thought I would point that out so you can fix the narrative.

Actually it is a classic case of biology because when men get an erection there is not enough blood supply for both the brain and the penis to operate at the same time so being men they shut the brain down. Transvestites are really good at this in later life.

ENDA will never pass as long as the word transgender is used everywhere and I personally could never vote for it. Transsexuals should be supported in the work place as long as they are surgery targeted but if the term transgender is used that would mean Carl can show up as a woman at work and be safe even though Carl wants to remain Carl. What someone does away from work should be protected but gender variance has no place in the workplace and that is what we are headed for if transgender is used.  It has zero chance of passing.

Several US States allow the non surgical transgender to change their birth certificates without SRS.  Thus we have the pregnant man and the women with a penis made legal.  It allows them to get a new driver license as a girl and yet they are NOT girls. I am sure certain folk will come in here claiming neither are we and maybe biologically but at least we pass muster if facing a body search.  I cannot wait until the first one of these fools gets a forced pat down by the TSA as a woman while still packing the old boy hardware. Lord is that going to be one shocked and then pissed off female TSA employee.

I wonder what would happen to those transitioning at work if they were subjected to loss of position and pay like we woman have faced. I have worked as a woman my entire life and actually walked out when I found out I made 60 cents on the dollar compared to the men.  I forced them to pay me more but it was still only 80 cents on the dollar.  If I was not the key to keeping 5 fortune 500 accounts I would have been gone. 

I wonder how fast men would transition if told they would only get paid 80 percent of what they currently made and had to take a demotion since women had not made it that high in the company before. There would be a lot less men transitioning on the job but then they would be discriminated against because they were "transgender" while the women sat there and suffered even more humiliation as a man tried to force his way into the world of women and kept a position and pay grade no woman had a chance of obtaining in the company. I expect a lawsuit to happen soon where a pre op transgender files a lawsuit against women because they will not accept him as a woman. This will be coming soon to your local paper courtesy of the ACLU, GLAAD, and the GLBT activists.

One should never be allowed to keep a good man down or from his dress and panties at work.
Acceptance as a woman is earned by working through the same pitfalls and glass ceilings that most of us have had to fight our way through.  You made your way up the corporate ladder with a penis and now that you have money and power you want to tell other women what it means to be a woman because you chopped it off, bought a good wig, manicured your nails, and presented as a woman. Yep, that works for me. Not!!! 

How does a transsexual fail transition? How does any transsexual detransition voluntarily? I guess it can be forced by medical reasons such as Hepatitis C which affects the liver but I am no expert for sure. There are several people I know of that detransitioned more than once and re-transitioned again and I have no idea how you do that.  I know of one that failed once early on after several years and then later in mid life after several years and finally completed transition in their late 40's to early 50's.

I guess it is a good example of perseverance or more likely a very clear example that if the transsexual glass slipper does not fit then you are probably not a transsexual but then again I never was much good at boy so maybe they enjoyed going back and forth while confusing everyone around them.

 One would think failing transition twice would put up a red flag the size of Texas for any therapist but not so. Of course maybe the therapist was conveniently uninformed about the failed attempts at transition.  Whatever they don’t know won’t hurt the therapist but it does make one wonder about the patient.

The reality evolves into hilarity when the failed transitioner becomes an outspoken advocate against all things transgender and self defines themselves as a clear example of a “true” transsexual.  Well at least they are in their own mind. Is it just me or is this kind of odd?

One of the issues some of us old-timers have, among many admittedly, is the weirdness of some of the narratives or more directly the insanity of the delusion certain individuals have when trying to explain why they transitioned or why they are transsexual or somehow better than transsexual and should be considered intersex.  I am not talking about the belief that transsexualism itself might be an intersex condition but the fantasy of some that they have a “special” intersex condition.

One such person would be Zoe Brain of Australia.  This is a seemingly rational and quite intelligent person who believes she somehow began to spontaneously feminize for reasons only known to her and god. Having seen several pictures of Ms Brain I would have to claim the feminization must have taken place on some hidden body part or maybe a pinky because Ms. Brain is not exactly feminine and could best be described as decidedly unfeminine although a case could possibly be made that her sudden feminization couldn’t overcome all those years of testosterone poisoning which are apparent in her case.

Her claims are not backed by science and are actually similar to that of Roberta Cowell of England. Ms. Cowell was the former RAF pilot, a true hero of WWII, who made such claims and was refuted by her physicians although Ms. Cowell is a true hero and in my humble opinion can claim she was from Neptune. There are quite simply no recorded and documented cases of such a thing happening “suddenly” when one is in their 30’s or later. If this was an intersex condition it would have been something present at birth.

As a cynical outside observer it appears to me this is just another case of a mid-life transitioner trying to get the wife to go along with the husbands desire to take his transvestism to new levels of fantasy. It reads like one of the forced feminization books prevalent in the transvestite community reading section at Amazon.It just seems to me this is another version of forced feminization but with the twist Zoe can claim or pretend to claim it is an intersex condition.

Her feminization dream is right up there with her belief she is a “rocket scientist’ as she claims unless she uses the terminology it to imply she is extremely intelligent which she seems to be. She isn’t literally a rocket scientist either. 

Ms. Brain has made claims on her blog that she is better than transsexuals because she is intersex.  I am only guessing but somehow I think Ms. Brain believes in the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, and honest politicians.

Another wacko that defies common sense is our “bee sting” victim Chloe Prince. Mr. Prince claimed a bee sting caused spontaneous feminization and exposed an intersex condition of some unstated kind. How convenient Chloe had a wife and children and managed to fool ABC News in the United States into believing her fantastic story of spontaneous feminization which for some unstated reason forced the then Mr. Prince to steal the family retirement account and fly off to Thailand and purchase a vagina, FFS, and a really nice rack from one Dr. Suporn.

It is kind of funny how these scenarios seem to always involve “married” men with children. Mr. Prince makes Al Bundy from the American sitcom “Married with Children” seem like your average All-American father. It also makes the ditsy Peggy Bundy from the same sitcom appear to be a “Rhodes Scholar” compared to Mr. Prince’s wife who is obviously developmentally challenged for believing this bullshit.

Rumors abound among the bee keeping communities of America that weirdly ugly female type creatures with a decidedly masculine appearance and manner were seen prancing through the bee hives singing, “sting me baby, sting me baby”, for quite a while after Mr. Prince’s story appeared in the media. One must wonder if this is partially the cause for the sudden loss of bee population needed for pollination in the United States. I am sure it scared the shit out of the bees as badly as Chloe Prince scares the shit out of me. Now that is a good transsexual or is it now intersex role Model?  Not!!!

Mr. Prince added to the lunacy of his story by recently stating that if a certain girl he fancied when younger had accepted his advances this might never have happened which does beg the question how this could have stopped his “bee sting feminization” but why let a consistent narrative get in the way of a good fantasy.

Sadly this is just another case of a family destroyed by a delusional transvestite claiming to be transsexual and then intersex based on a “bee sting” to get approval from the wife. Without that the wife’s lawyer could have tied up the family money and Mr. Prince’s 75K “girl job” in Thailand.

I think I actually miss June Hingle. Now I never thought I would ever look at those words typed by my fingers but it is true. Compared to many of the fools I have had the misfortune of reading about lately I might have misjudged June a bit. June appears to be quite normal in comparison.

Oh yes, moderation is off so have fun screaming at me if you want. 

Lost comments from rename.

By Kathryn Martin <>

I would like to know more about the motivations that drive you to have
written this post, Elizabeth. Since you are a successful old timer, what
do you care whether others are successful or not in their attempts to
find congruence and happiness. I am of course your typical 57 year
transitioner. What I find outright weird, is that you seem to equate
relationships with penises and vaginas. Really? You think women that
decide to stay with the person they love suddenly become lesbian? They
are seen as such by the likes of you but quite frankly the concept of
loving another human being must completely elude you which calls into
question your ability to pass judgement on those who have what you
obviously cannot have. If you did I think you would not have written
what you wrote. By the way, how did you pay for your surgery some 40
years ago? I am sure your surgeon did it for free out of the goodness of
his heart. And if not I am sure he let you pay for it whenever you felt
like it. See more... <javascript:void(0);> Or did you get some help from
some fund? I would suspect you are in your 60's. The degree of
competitiveness and anger you display suggests that you are very, very
bitter about something that I cannot define and it leads you to lash out
against those that have done nothing to you. Oh and just to make sure: I
am not American I don't give a shit about Enda and I think all of you,
and here I include the entire quagmire of gender variant people "in the
scene" need to clean up your mess and stop behaving like 5 year old's.
It is just the same old same old, people need to step on others to
elevate themselves. How high did you get?
on Comments, a few rants, observations, and pet peeve...
on 4/1/11

By Elizabeth <> on

@Kathryn, I wrote it out of puzzlement and disbelief. Well you must have
had an asexual relationship with your wife then since "most" married
couples occasionally have sex and many older people enjoy sex but but
maybe it is different in Nova Scotia. Are you claiming that your wife
has willingly given up her desires or is that another delusion of yours?
A healthy relationship is derived from both love and sex so I gather you
did not have a healthy relationship. What would you call a woman married
to another woman or in love with another other than a lesbian? If you
stay married it is what you are whether you like it or not. There is
nothing wrong with you being lesbian since that is your choice but your
wife did not marry as a lesbian but as a heterosexual woman. Thus she
must accept her position in a lesbian relationship. It is how the world
views it even in Canada. Your problem is that you just do not get it.
Why in the name of god did it take you 57 years to make this decision.
See more... <javascript:void(0);> Convenience? Finances? Not knowing
what you were? You are the problem and you just do not get it. The
majority of people look at some fool like you and simply say, "Why did
he get married, have kids, and wait to he was 57 to do this?" I am sure
you have a pat answer but not many care. You think you understand love?
You love yourself for sure like most fetishistic transvestites. What is
it I cannot have? The fetishistic joy of being a transvestite until I
was 57 like you and deciding then I will get a "bob" job and become
Kathryn. I do not envy you. I actually pity you for a simple reason. I
cannot imagine what it must be to go through 57 years of life as a
simpering transvestite. You have never had anything in your life I would
want. Not a single thing. I lost the love of my life when he was killed
in Vietnam but eventually after a failed marriage found a wonderful man
whom I loved beyond anything you can imagine and yes it was both a
wonderful relationship and a sexual relationship which is what a
"NORMAL" relationship is. I paid for my surgery by working for 3+ years
in Houston because I had no family support or financial backing. In fact
I was flat broke when I left Graduate school. I left Houston in August
of 1969 and worked in NYC for an uncle that convinced me to let him help
me and about 16 months later I had surgery. I paid for it by working for
it but I was young and driven and nothing was stopping me from that
operating table. What competitiveness are you talking about? You are a
man for gods sake. I guess when a woman questions a man it is being
competitive. If you question a man it is anger if you disbelieve the
fantastical narrative. You have not even transitioned yet you pathetic
old man and you are telling others you will be an advocate for
transsexuals or maybe a role model. The advocate or role model from hell
is more likely. I am actually a very happy and fun loving woman but I am
disgusted with people like you. Personally it would have been better if
you cut it off before you could have reproduced but that is only wishful
thinking and would make the assumption you were actually ever born
transsexual plus it would punish your children. I am not stepping on you
because I do not think I am better than any other person that was born
transsexual. In fact I was much luckier than most of them because I was
born Type VI which basically ensured an early resolution of my problem.
The only person trying to elevate themselves is you sir. You want to
elevate yourself from fetishistic transvestite to transsexual and of
course then be defined as a "true" transsexual and then be a tranny
advocate. Actually sir I never tried to get high unless it was from some
good Colombian weed and I was never a member of the gender variant scene
where you most certainly belong. Now crawl back into that transvestite
hole you slithered out of and

By . <> on Comments,

@Kathryn Martin I saw my name pop up again in google. I really don't
want to be here, so I'll make it short. It is not worth addressing the
writer of this blog. You are giving into being abused each time you
enter any blog like this. Beyond that it is not even worth discussing. I
wish you happiness in your life. Just be yourself. You don't need to
account to anyone but you. Look to your heart, and please be the best
that you can be. take care ♥, June